How to Stop Overthinking and Change Your Life: You Are Not Your Thoughts
Do you ever feel trapped in your thoughts, stuck in the same worries, habits, or overthinking loops? I used to feel the same way — until I discovered something that changed my life: your thoughts are not you. Once you understand this, you can stop overthinking, relieve stress, and start consciously creating the life you want. Why Overthinking Feels So Hard to Escape For the longest time, I believed my thoughts defined me. That they lived inside me. That they were me. But here’s what I’ve come to realize: thoughts are not inside us. They’re like radio signals — energy that has always been there, waiting for us to tune in. Some thoughts feel heavy, repetitive, and old. I call these automatic thoughts. They’re the “stations” we’ve been listening to for years — fear, worry, or limiting beliefs playing on repeat. Those are what I call automatic thoughts. Other thoughts feel fresh, creative, like a lightbulb moment. Those are new stations we haven’t tuned into before. Here’s the tricky part: As humans, we’re wired to return to the same old stations. It feels safe and familiar — even when those thoughts no longer serve us. That’s why overthinking feels so hard to break. The Truth: You Are Not Your Thoughts This is the game-changer: you are not your thoughts. You are a spiritual being having a human experience, and that means you can choose differently. But you can only do that when you slow down. Because when we’re rushing through life on autopilot, we don’t even notice what station we’re on. We just react, act, repeat. When you pause — breathe, reflect, journal — you create the space to notice what station you’re tuned into. Then you can decide:👉🏾 Do I want to keep listening to this? Or do I want to change the station? A Simple Practice That Helped Me: Journaling For me, journaling has been one of the most powerful tools to break free from overthinking. Writing my thoughts down helps me: See which ones are old and automatic Recognize beliefs I’ve outgrown Choose the thoughts I want to keep Sometimes, you won’t even realize what your “automatic station” is until you’re in an environment that triggers it. For example, when I’m in Nigeria, I feel abundant, grounded, and like a queen. In that space, my automatic thoughts show up more clearly — some are aligned, while others (like the tendency to act on impulse) are ones I now choose to release. That’s the gift of awareness: once you recognize a thought pattern, you can finally decide whether to keep it or change it. Because at the end of the day, overthinking doesn’t have to control your life. The moment you realize you are not your thoughts, you gain the power to change the station — and change your life. Once you can tune into new ideas, new energies, and new experiences, that’s how real change begins. ✨ To help you start, I created something special:Get my Free Flexible Wellness & Schedule Planner — a tool designed to help busy women slow down, practice journaling, and choose the right “station” for their lives. [Get your free planner here] Watch next https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nJNhdscxqc8&t=1s
5-Step Morning Routine to Boost Energy, Mood, and Focus for Women
In this post, you’ll learn my 5-step morning routine that helps me feel grounded, joyful, and energised before 7AM — even on busy days. You’ll also learn small changes you can make to create your own healthy morning routine that improves focus, mood, and energy. The way you start your day matters more than most people realise.For me, my mornings are about setting my mind, body, and spirit in alignment before the world starts making demands. This is my personal morning routine — the one that keeps me grounded, joyful, and energised, no matter what the day holds. And if you want to see exactly how I do it, I’ve shared it in action — click here to watch me in action. https://www.youtube.com/shorts/NAZ2aSiULz4 1. My Morning Flow: How I Start at 5AM Without Feeling Tired You might think this takes hours — but the way I do it, I start between 5:00 and 5:30 AM and finish before 7:00 AM.Sometimes my workout lasts up to 40 minutes, but here’s the thing — I don’t do everything on the list every single day. However, there are two things I never skip: Gratitude practice Workout This flow is the foundation of my daily routine for energy and mental clarity. 2. Gratitude Practice: The 5-Minute Ritual to Boost Your Mood Being grateful allows me to appreciate the little things — and the little things are what create big joy.I’ve also learnt to appreciate the things I haven’t seen yet but want to create.Speaking gratitude for them in advance brings them into my life faster. This morning ritual for focus shifts my perspective, keeps me positive, and opens me to more opportunities. Just five minutes each day can completely transform how you approach challenges. 3. Workout: My Energy Reset My workout routine is paramount. Movement is my non-negotiable. Rapid movement gets my body and mind into a state where I’m focused, centred, and ready for the day. Benefits of my morning exercise routine: Boosts focus and productivity Balances mood Lowers stress response And here’s the kicker — after my workout, I’m as calm as a cucumber throughout the day.Why? Because it slows my heart rate, and any challenges that come my way are easier to solve or attend to without stress or feeling unbalanced. 4. Optional Steps for Extra Focus and Clarity When I have the time, I add in: Meditation for mental clarity Reading my affirmations & vision board to align with my goals Reading for growth to feed my mind These steps keep me connected to my bigger vision and ensure I’m growing daily — not just going through the motions. Final Thought: Start Small, See Big Changes You don’t have to follow my routine perfectly or even daily. But staying consistent with just one or two healthy morning habits can create a massive shift in your mood, energy, and focus. 📲 See It in Action Want to watch exactly how I flow through this morning routine for women? Click here to watch me in action on my Instagram and TikTok — you’ll see the movements, mindset shifts, and practices that keep me in my highest energy every day.
Easy & Fast Weight Loss for Women of Colour: The Power of Protein
If you’ve been eating less but still not seeing results — protein could be your missing piece. In my YouTube video, I broke down the simple yet powerful role protein plays in fat loss. And sis, it’s not just about building muscle — it’s about feeling full, curbing cravings, and protecting your strength. Let’s Talk Culture & Carbs Most women of colour I coach unknowingly under-eat protein — not out of neglect, but because our beautiful traditional meals are often carb-heavy and our snacks are sugar-based. The truth is: you don’t need to give up your cultural dishes. You just need to rebalance your plate. Protein is the anchor that brings balance to your meals and boosts your fitness results. 💪🏾 Why Protein Is the Not-So-Secret Weapon If you’re aiming for healthy, sustainable weight loss, especially as a woman of colour, here’s why protein needs to be front and center: It keeps you fuller, longer – which means fewer cravings and less late-night snacking. It supports fat loss — not just weight loss – so you lose inches without losing your curves. It preserves muscle – keeping you toned and strong, even as the number on the scale drops. It balances blood sugar – helping reduce mood swings, energy dips, and mindless eating. 🔄 Real Talk: How I Made It Work I didn’t stop eating the foods I love — I just made smart shifts: ✔ Protein with every meal – morning, noon, and night✔ High-protein snacks – boiled eggs, yogurt, grilled meats✔ Modified traditional meals – e.g., less rice, more beans or fish✔ Protein smoothies – for those busy days when cooking isn’t happening These small changes helped me stay full, burn fat, and feel stronger — without cutting out culture or joy. 🗣️ Ready to Make the Shift? If you’re tired of dieting and not seeing results, it’s time to focus on what you’re eating, not just how little. Want to see how I incorporate protein, first in the morning? Watch my shorts clip below
Lose Weight Fast by Redefining Fitness for Black and Non-Western Women (Without Starving or Overtraining)
What if I told you that fitness was never just about weight loss? Too many women—especially Black women and non-Western women—have been sold the lie that fitness means shrinking yourself. Counting calories. Obsessing over scales. And following rules that ignore our culture, our rhythms, and our responsibilities. But real fitness is about more than numbers—it’s about feeling strong, energized, and powerful in your own skin.It’s walking your kids to school without running out of breath.It’s dancing in the kitchen without knee pain.It’s having the energy to live out your purpose—not just fit into a smaller size. That’s the message I shared in my latest YouTube video—because it’s time we redefine fitness in a way that honours who we are. In the video, I talk about how I redefined fitness for myself — and how you can too. ✔ Reconnect with movement that feels good✔ Rebuild your strength, slowly and sustainably✔ Honour your culture and body, not fight against them If you’re tired of quick fixes, restrictive diets, and fitness fads, this is your invitation to step into a new reality.A holistic wellness journey for Black and non-Western women—rooted in joy, strength, and cultural pride. 🎥 Watch the full video here → Fitness Redefined It’s time for a shift—where fitness for Black women and non-Western women is no longer about losing ourselves, but about reclaiming our strength, culture, and confidence on our own terms.
How to Lose Fat Without Losing Your Culture or Confidence
Let’s be real—most fitness plans focus on what to eat and how to exercise.But what they don’t talk about… is who you become in the process. For many of us, especially as culturally rooted women, fat loss isn’t just about a smaller waist.It touches your emotions, your identity, your roots. You want to feel good in your skin—but not at the cost of losing yourself.You don’t want to eat salads all day, starve yourself, or live at the gym.Because that’s not really you, sis. You want to live fully, eat real food, move your body in a way that feels good,and still feel like the beautiful, powerful woman you are. Redefine the Goal What if fat loss isn’t the goal—but a byproduct of choosing yourself daily? Like choosing food that fuels you through your day instead of draining you.Let’s say it’s a full-on day and you want to show up strong—like the queen you are.You simply choose meals that energise you. And movement? It’s not just workouts.It’s walking your child to school, cleaning, cooking—that’s real movement.It’s called NEAT, and it counts. The key is: eat in a way that matches how you live and move.Once that clicks? The fat starts to go—and the strength, energy, and confidence rise. ✨ Want to learn more about how your cultural foods and daily movement can work for your goals?Register your interest for my low-fee group coaching here → 2. Honour Your Culture in the Process Many popular diets are rooted in Western ideals. They demonise carbs, remove all oils, or ignore the rich traditions in your food.But sis, our food is not the problem.It’s how the food is prepared, how much of it is eaten, and whether it’s supporting your current goals. You can still eat fufu, rice, jollof, moimoi, okra, yam… but with balance and power.That’s the 80/20 rule I teach: 80% nourishing whole food, 20% pleasure and celebration.That way, you don’t feel like you’re “cheating”—because there’s nothing to cheat on. You’re living. 3. Embrace the New You Without Erasing the Old You Your body will change. Your habits will shift.But your values? Your softness? Your joy? Your roots? They stay. This isn’t about losing fat and becoming someone new.It’s about revealing more of who you really are—the woman underneath the layers of expectations, exhaustion, and survival mode. And that woman? She’s powerful, radiant, grounded. Final Thoughts You don’t need to disappear to become lighter. You don’t need to abandon your traditions, your joy, or your softness. You just need to reconnect with your body, honour it with intention, and give yourself permission to thrive—on your terms. ✨ Ready to honour your body, your culture, and your pace? Join a sisterhood that sees you. We keep it real, rooted, and revolutionary.
Why Affirmations Don’t Work — Until You Do
Today, I had a powerful realization that shifted something deep inside me—and I believe it might help shift something in you too. I finally understood why affirmations don’t always work. We’ve all been told to repeat empowering statements like:“I am healthy.”“I am wealthy.”“I am confident.”And while there’s power in these words, they often feel hollow when your life doesn’t reflect what you’re saying. So here’s the truth that hit me: You can’t serve two masters.You can’t say you are one thing, while continuing to choose something else. Let’s say you affirm, “I am a healthy woman,” but every day your choices reflect the opposite—skipping movement, reaching for ultra-processed foods, staying up too late. Your mind notices. It knows what you really like. And because your brain is designed to serve you, it serves who you already are, not who you wish to be. At first, your mind will present you with the same old options—comfort foods, lazy habits, quick fixes. Then it’ll throw in a few new choices to test your resolve:“Will she pick the nourishing meal this time?”“Will she still press snooze or go for a walk?” If you keep defaulting to the old choices, your mind simply says,“She’s not ready yet. Stick with what we know.” But here’s where the shift happens:The moment you consistently make choices aligned with who you say you are…Your mind takes notice.It starts offering you more of those choices.It says, “Oh, she’s serious now. Let’s serve the new her.” Your mind will now start serving you your new choices, and with time, you begin to attract more of these aligned opportunities.But for that new choice to last, you must be grounded in it.This means being consistent, even when the old habits call your name. If you’re not fully anchored, your mind can easily switch back to the old patterns—because the DNA of your past choices hasn’t been completely cleared from your system.That’s why even after hitting a goal, people tend to slide back. This is exactly why I recommend staying connected to an aligned group, a mentor, or a mastermind—even after you’ve achieved success. Or better yet, aim for another higher goal that sits in the same direction as your new self.That’s how your results not only last—but continue to expand. So it’s not your words that manifest your affirmations.It’s your beingness.It’s your daily choices.Your mind believes your actions. Not your wishes. ✨ Your Next Step 💬 What’s one affirmation you’ve been saying—and what’s one aligned choice you can make today to back it up? 📲 Need support staying consistent and grounded in your transformation? 📥 Sign up to my email list for weekly inspiration, powerful lessons, and first access to my programs.👉🏽 Join the email list here Or join my low-fee Group Coaching Program —a sacred space for culturally rooted women ready to grow in awareness, empowerment, and aligned living.👉🏽 Click here to join now 📤 And if this message spoke to you, share it with a sister who’s walking the same path.
The Secret to Reducing Financial Pressure Isn’t About Money—It’s About Expectations
We often think we’re stressed because we’re not earning enough. But the deeper truth?Most of our stress comes from the silent pressure of our own expectations. Not just what we expect—but when we expect it. We attach our dreams to deadlines: But here’s something powerful to reflect on:💡 If we created the expectation, why can’t we also adjust it? Our timelines were set by us, not by divine law. And yet we hold onto them as if they’re permanent—when nothing in life is truly permanent. We are energy. The world is energy. Everything is always moving, changing, shifting. So why do we expect our expectations to stay static? Often, the pain we feel is not from life—it’s from our resistance to how life is.We fight reality, not realizing that in doing so, we increase our suffering. Let me share something that grounds me when I feel overwhelmed: 🌌 “The universe—source of all power, beauty, and strength—is chaotic. And in that chaos, it transforms. So, Titilayo, there will always be chaos. But the beauty is how you transform that chaos into freedom, power, and peace—just like your Creator does.” We were not called to avoid the chaos. We were called to transform it. And the first step?✂️ Untie your expectations from the timeline.❤️ Accept your reality as it is.⚡ And from that space—create your own powerful rhythm. 🎥 Watch the Video In this week’s video, I share:
Why Batch Cooking Alone Isn’t Enough — And What to Do Instead
One thing I’ve realized about batch cooking is that yes—it works. But it only works when you can consistently make time for it. The minute life gets hectic and you can’t carve out that time, your eating routine can quickly become chaotic. And trying to get back into the rhythm of batch cooking can feel overwhelming and stressful. So what do you do when you can’t batch cook? The 80/20 Rule: Your Flexible Foundation The key to sustainable eating isn’t rigid meal plans—it’s building a flexible, balanced way of eating that can adapt to your life. That’s where the 80/20 rule comes in. Here’s what I teach my clients: If you’re working toward weight loss or just starting out, I recommend going even further:90% whole foods, 10% processed to help reset your system and create better habits. Adjust Your Macros Based on Your Activity Level Nutrition isn’t one-size-fits-all. Your daily movement and activity should shape how you eat—especially your macronutrient balance. If you’re not very active: Cut down on carbohydrates.Here’s why: Carbs + fats combined in excess = more fat storage.Stick to lean protein, healthy fats, and fiber-rich veggies to stay fueled without overloading your body. If you’re regularly active (you walk a lot, workout, or move often): Aim for a balanced macro ratio like this: This supports muscle, energy, and sustainable fat loss—without extreme dieting. Eating Well, Even Without a Plan When you live by these simple principles, eating well becomes easier—even on days when you don’t have meals prepped or planned. Whether you’re on the go, at work, or out running errands, you’ll be able to choose whole, satisfying foods wherever you are. Many restaurants and supermarkets now offer cooked or ready-to-eat whole food options. Once you know what to look for, you’ll never feel like you’re “off track” again. Final Thoughts: Make It a Lifestyle, Not a Phase Sustainable health isn’t about perfect routines—it’s about consistent principles you can return to, no matter what season of life you’re in.Start with simple shifts:✔ Eat mostly whole foods✔ Adjust your macros based on your movement✔ Stay flexible, not rigid And remember, when life gets busy, don’t stress—just go back to your foundation. 💬 Want Support and Motivation? Join my exclusive WhatsApp group for coaching, weekly challenges, and simple strategies tailored to women like you who want real transformation without the extremes. 👉🏾 Click here to Join now!
Traditional Foods vs Modern Diets: What should we Eat?
I was plant-based for 2 years. Then carnivore. Then Atkins. The results? Incredible. The sustainability? A disaster. As a woman rooted in culture and community, I quickly realized: these diets weren’t designed for my life. Between family dinners, travel, and the sheer cost of ‘trendy’ ingredients, I felt isolated—and exhausted by the hustle. Worse? The ‘wellness’ industry hijacked these diets, pushing processed ‘keto cookies’ and ‘vegan junk food’ that made me question: If we’re eating fake versions of real food, what’s the point? 🥗 Modern Diets: Innovation or Confusion? Diets like Atkins, vegan, plant-based, or carnivore often focus on body goals: weight loss, muscle tone, gut health. And to be honest, they all work—to an extent. I’ve tried them all—Atkins, plant-based, even carnivore. I was vegan for two years and got fantastic results. My body responded well, and I truly believed I could sustain it. But then life shifted—and so did my ability to keep up. Here’s the truth, my queens: Carnivore gave me amazing results too—but quickly I realised: man shall not live by meat alone. The universe offers us a table full of goodness. Why only pick one part and discard the rest? 🌍 My Realisation: Take the Best of Both These diets are powerful—especially if you’re healing or need a quick shift. I’ll still recommend them in the right context. But long-term? They’re not always sustainable for a culturally rooted woman who grew up eating in a more balanced, wholesome way. After years of exploring both traditional and modern foods, I now coach women to blend the two with intention.The result? You become a balanced, empowered, well-nourished woman who feels strong, eats with freedom, and honours her identity. 💡 Final Word: Choose Balance Both traditional and modern diets can work—if you approach them with intention. What’s best is what works for your body, your culture, and your life. Want to learn how to adapt this to your real, busy, culturally rich life?✨ Join my low-cost community or✨ Apply for my signature 1-to-1 coaching program—and let’s create your balanced path to health.
Tired of Struggling to Manifest Consciously?
Do you ever find it ironic that the very things you struggle to manifest consciously often materialize only after you release your grip on them? You yearned for it intensely, yet the moment you stopped stressing and let go, there it was. That wasn’t mere chance; that was the tangible result of your inherent power. Like an unseen current, you are perpetually manifesting realities, often without realizing it. The true mastery, and where so many struggle to manifest consciously, is in learning to navigate and direct this inherent power with intention. 1. You’ve Manifested Without Even Trying Think back: you wanted something, let it go, and it arrived effortlessly.In that moment, you trusted without forcing.You already know how to manifest — naturally.You just weren’t aware of it. 2. Conscious Manifestation Feels Hard Because of Old Programming When you try to manifest consciously, fear and doubt creep in.Thoughts like “maybe it’s not for me” or “what if I fail?” block you.These beliefs aren’t yours — they’re inherited from culture, society, and past experiences. 3. You Need Relatable Mentorship Unlocking your full power requires relatable guidance.Especially as a cultured woman, you need mentors who understand your journey — not just anyone.Relatability helps your mind and body believe, accept, and act on new truths. This Is Why I Created Unlock You In my course, I guide African and cultured rooted women to consciously activate the power they already have.I know your struggles because I’ve lived them — and I know the path out. Ready to unlock your potential powers within you? Book a Free Consultation with me! Your power is waiting to be fully used.