How to Stop Overthinking and Change Your Life: You Are Not Your Thoughts3 min read
Do you ever feel trapped in your thoughts, stuck in the same worries, habits, or overthinking loops? I used to feel the same way — until I discovered something that changed my life: your thoughts are not you.
Once you understand this, you can stop overthinking, relieve stress, and start consciously creating the life you want.
For the longest time, I believed my thoughts defined me. That they lived inside me. That they were me.
But here’s what I’ve come to realize: thoughts are not inside us. They’re like radio signals — energy that has always been there, waiting for us to tune in.
Some thoughts feel heavy, repetitive, and old. I call these automatic thoughts. They’re the “stations” we’ve been listening to for years — fear, worry, or limiting beliefs playing on repeat. Those are what I call automatic thoughts.
Other thoughts feel fresh, creative, like a lightbulb moment. Those are new stations we haven’t tuned into before.
Here’s the tricky part:
As humans, we’re wired to return to the same old stations. It feels safe and familiar — even when those thoughts no longer serve us. That’s why overthinking feels so hard to break.
The Truth: You Are Not Your Thoughts
This is the game-changer: you are not your thoughts. You are a spiritual being having a human experience, and that means you can choose differently.
But you can only do that when you slow down. Because when we’re rushing through life on autopilot, we don’t even notice what station we’re on. We just react, act, repeat.
When you pause — breathe, reflect, journal — you create the space to notice what station you’re tuned into. Then you can decide: 👉🏾 Do I want to keep listening to this? Or do I want to change the station?
A Simple Practice That Helped Me: Journaling
For me, journaling has been one of the most powerful tools to break free from overthinking. Writing my thoughts down helps me:
See which ones are old and automatic
Recognize beliefs I’ve outgrown
Choose the thoughts I want to keep
Sometimes, you won’t even realize what your “automatic station” is until you’re in an environment that triggers it.
For example, when I’m in Nigeria, I feel abundant, grounded, and like a queen. In that space, my automatic thoughts show up more clearly — some are aligned, while others (like the tendency to act on impulse) are ones I now choose to release.
That’s the gift of awareness: once you recognize a thought pattern, you can finally decide whether to keep it or change it.
Because at the end of the day, overthinking doesn’t have to control your life. The moment you realize you are not your thoughts, you gain the power to change the station — and change your life. Once you can tune into new ideas, new energies, and new experiences, that’s how real change begins.
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